When we acknowledge and accept compliments, we are reminded that others see us through different eyes.

So many of us find it hard to take praise, yet it is easy to believe even the smallest criticism. Let us choose, right now, to receive compliments wholeheartedly, just like we would a gift. Loving remarks are expressions of gratitude. They are commendations for making intelligent decisions, achieving goals, or even just letting your light show. Although there is no reason not to receive a good remark as a gift, some of us argue against them, even offering counterarguments.

If we were to see the energy of a compliment, we would see radiant, lovely, and upbeat energy emanating from the giver. If we gladly received that energy, it would enhance our individual energy field. The provider receives our gratitude in the form of warm, fuzzy, glowing energy, closing the positive feedback loop. However, if we turn down a compliment, what could have been a lovely conversation becomes awkward and uneasy, turning it into an unpleasant experience. The delight of experiencing this connection with someone else might be ruined by misplaced modesty. However, we can remain modest when accepting a compliment by merely expressing "thank you." Nonetheless, the first thing to do would be to start believing positive things about oneself if praises are turned down because of a low sense of self-worth. When looking in the mirror, try complimenting yourself. You will be able to observe the smile it puts on your face and experience how nice it feels once the initial silly feelings pass. The next action would be to observe the experience of complimenting others. Observe the difference in your emotions when your present is declined versus how wonderful it feels to make someone else's face smile. Now that you have seen both sides, you will be prepared to participate completely and voluntarily.

We are our own worst critics. We are reminded that various people have different perspectives on us when we accept compliments. Positive attention is what all living things want, and we should all be the recipients of positive energy. If we receive compliments with gratitude and happiness, others will feel free to do the same.

Jeanne Clark, RN, MSN, NC-BC

The Emerald Door

3 Elm Street

Huntington, NY 11743